Why Cats Don’t Sit in Lap?

Lap Cats

Lap cats is a term used for those cats which like to sit in owner’s lap. Cats which form a strong bond with their owners always come and sit in their owners laps, but sometimes cats do not sit in lap. There could be many reasons for that and whenever a cat is showing distance from owner and is not ready to sit in lap, owners start feeling that perhaps they are not being able to make a bond with their cat. Although this is not the only reason if cat is not ready to sit in lap.

lap cat

Why Cats Don’t Sit in Laps?

There are few cat breeds that make very good lap cat. Mostly people want cats due to this very reason that they cuddle and hug and stay around the owner, make them warm and shower love and affection. All of this is true except for those cats that are bit independent.


Cats are moody. They come with different personalities. One of the major reasons that your cat is not sitting in your lap could be that it doesn’t trust you enough. If you are not using tactics to make your cat have a strong bond with you, then this is the reason cat wants to stay away. Another reason for a cat not coming to owners to sit in their lap could be lack of need to get warmth. If a cat finds soft, warm and cozy places around the house, then there is lesser need to sit in the owner’s lap. Lap cats are usually cats with high expression of love and affection and not all cats could express their love in similar manner.

Sleeping Kitten

How to Make a Cat Sit in Lap?

There are no rules to instantly change your cat’s mind to sit in your lap. All you can do is trying. Some cats are born with independent nature; it is hard to get their attention. Few tips to have a stronger bond with your cat are:

  • Sit on floor opposite to your cat; make sure it’s quiet around. Use some cat treats and throw them towards your cat. Let the cat approach near you. Don’t touch the cat, let it come nearer. Once cat will know that you are not grabbing it forcefully, then it will trust you in future.
  • If your cat sits around you but not in your lap, touch it gently, stroke its ears, back and neck. Don’t make sudden movements. Slowly pet your cat. Once cat will feel happy and loved after this handling and touching, next time it will come to you and ask you to touch and love it.
  • Play with your cat. Use toys for this purpose.
  • Pet your cat softly every time you pass by him/her. In this way, cat will know that you just show love.
  • Feed the cat by staying by its side.
  • Try to talk calmly with the cat. Call it when you want it around you.
  • Don’t show anger or aggression at all.
Updated: 31/01/2017 — 12:47 am
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